the hurt of the bomb is too fresh, no one, specially your H can expect you to trust him. Love and trust have to be build up again from level one. It took me about 7mths to stop thinking negatively, to check on his stuff to make sure he wasnt' looking into leaving, being w/someone. I declared it a victory a month ago that I could go by his car without snooping and wondering what he might have there.
Sounds like he is pretty broken (my H still is too), suicide thoughts are never to be ignored (my H had depression and I read you never ignore those kind of comments) Your H doesn't know what to do w/himself, isnt' whole and can't offer you much now. ======== ts important that we get some marriage counselling, because I don't think that its healthy to pretend that nothing has happened. But I just don't know how to bring it up =========== I think now would be a great time to bring it up. I was also anti-C, thought it was extreme and that we didnt' need it (before my H left). JUST DO IT. Find a councelor, make an appt, call TODAY. Mention to your H that you think you both need a 3rd party to be able to talk without attacking each other. Without being pushy, let him know when is the session, and tell him you'll like him to attend, that you'll be going anyways.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
