hey friend, sorry your kids aren't doing so well, how old are they? or the one who's having a hard time? have you thought about family therapy? sounds like your kid needs it, and I guess like us, for a long time we wait for the other shoe to drop.
As bnday said, tell him it is ok to feel bad about what happened, teach him to confront his fears to then slay them. Have a regular outing with just him and your husband.
Hugs hon)))) Remember to challenge every thought and emotion that comes to your mind, emotions aren't rational. Your M is a different one now, embrace the change.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.