R2, ok, as for your question of the day! If it has been something you have done in the past, it only seems normal for you to do. but with everything else going on, giving him space as he requested may just be the trick.
Sending a text or something, I am not sure. does XH know that is something you do for EVERYONE? do you send out cards? call on Easter, things like that? the reason I ask, if you don't generally do those kind of things, will he see it as you are just trying to contact him?
If he email's, texts or whatever first. I don't think it is wrong for you to repsond. That will be the friendly thing to do. but I wouldn't repsond imediately. I would wait hours and maybe respond the next day. Say something to the fact that you were busy, thank you for the "email" and maybe say I hope you have/had a good time. and leave it at THAT.. no more! but it is your life and you need to decide what is best for you and your relationship. I am here to give you what I believe to be good advice, please take it in and you can then at that point decide what you want to do with it from there.
What is XH doing for Easter, going to the 57yr old's place or with his family? What are you doing? I hope you are not by yourself! I am going up to my mother and stepfather's for Easter, So far H is coming with me. we will just wait that out and see if it actually happens.
I hope I helped you and I will check back later.
wife of an addict M 39 H 39 D18 D 16 Together 19 M17
