You didn't get mad, you didn't get emotional...you simply stated a fact. Awesome!
FWIW...my H and I have commented on their clothing too, but not so much the low-cut tops...heck I wear those now and then (I know he's a breast man), but more the high heels they wear LMAO. Those women on CSI Miami wear some of the most ridiculous shoes for what their jobs are supposed to be...not a sensible shoe in the bunch LMAO. Nothing like trapsing around the beach or a swamp with 4" stillettoes on LOL....not to mention chasing down a criminal....yeah, whatever!
Still, I say you did awesome! She slipped up in what she was saying to you and gave you the opportunity to dispassionately point out that she's expecting you to do something that she's unwilling to do herself. I find this works GREAT with Mr. GEL!