What about approaching your new R with ex-W as if you are dating someone totally new? You are aware of her history and how she has felt (has been hurt?) by her previous R .. and because of that you realize that you have to really "tip-toe" to in to gain her trust.
If you adopt that attitude, do you think it will help you in not being disappointed when your ex does not respond/do what you would like?
It sounds like she is really liking the flirting .. your attentions, etc .. without pressure.
If you keep asking that same question over and over, (what you want .. where you think this should be going .. in YOUR time) she is bound to feel "pressured".
Keep the pressure off. Take your cues from her. If she said "no" to something, probably you need to wait until she suggests it next ... ?
