Well the X decided to say in a letter that he wrote Feb. 11,07 that he was going to declare $10,500.00 in alimony payments for last year...He wrote it in on a piece of paper and my son brought the last (hopefully) bit of mail from the old house to me and this was with it. I don't think there is anything that he can declare as alimony because I never received any... He did give me two payments of alimony that were used to show that I had alimony so I could buy my condo... but One was returned to him in a check it was just to satisfy the loan and the other was not used til January 07.. I can give documentation for those two but he can't use them as alimony for last year. I think that he is also declaring that half of the bills from last year were mine too. He should of said something because I might have been able to pay...
I guess that he is trying to make me mad but I really can't go there. He said if I needed proof he had it so I guess I should ask him for it. I will email him for it and tell him that the lawyer will have to look it over, because it has to do with the divorce...he has to pay for it then...I have already filed mine, and I discussed this with him because he had said something like this earlier to me. The tax accountant said that it couldn't be done.. so I am going with his word. But would still like to know what he is declaring.
Is he still in a MLC? I beleive that he is. Is he doing this so I will get mad and go on a rollercoaster ride with him? Is he trying to upset me? He has become money crazy since we were seperated....I don't know what to make of this,, there is nothing that he can legally declare. If anyone has a opinion please post thanks ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
Not enough info to know if this is an MLC sticth or not. From a financial standpoint, treat it like business. Let your attorney and accountant handle this.
In my experience, the ex can and will do anything to push buttons, cause you/us anxiety, to FORCE your/my attention towards them, which includes (for me) going to court. They want to see and hear from you when you are angry, because it helps them justify/prove to themselves that we deserve the treatment/abuse from them. In a (very) crazy way, it keeps us sucked into their drama, AND keeps us connected to them.
If you can afford to, give it to your attorney and/or accountant to deal with, and allow him the room to hang himself.
Look at it this way, you know you didn't receive this money as alimony, which is a taxable income for you. You can prove you didn't receive this money, in case of an audit, right? Well then, give him the rope he needs to hang himself, for it will be his taxes, his audit that HE will have to deal with.
Make any sense?
Is he still in MLC? Well, I can honestly say I don't know, but, again in my experience, my xh became worse after the divorce, as if the divorce was another life crisis for him which sent him further into the insanity. Just because they get the divorce they so "desperately" needed doesn't mean MLC will end.
Hope you continue to remained detached, for it's the only way to keep your wits about you, and live a life YOU choose.
Take care of you, God Bless
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Itsy, Laughing gave you some very good advice. Turn the financial documentation over to your lawyer/accountant and let them do the math on this for you. Send him an email and ask him for a copy of what he has in the way of documentation and leave it at that. There is no need to have a long winded discussion over it since your accountant has already filed your taxes and told you what you could or couldn't claim. Give him enough rope and he'll hang himself yet.
As for him being in mlc, no one can say for sure. However, what he's stated in that note to you is all about money and taxes. It's about deductions that he wants to claim and many people do these things to their exes and they are quite sane. Your xh is trying to get all that he can from the final year of the marriage and unfortunately, he's going to find out the hard way that many of the deductions will not fly. But, that's something he has to find out on his own. Your main concern is with you at this time.
If your xh is still floating around in mlc, the euphoria of the divorce hasn't worn off. This could take at least 6 months, depending upon what's been going on w/him. Itsy, I'm going to give you some advice and you may not want to hear it, but here goes. You are divorced, your xh has behaved poorly towards you for a long time, it's time to place the focus on to yourself and your family. Leave that man out there to swing in the wind. He doesn't deserve your attention right now. You've gone through so much and it's time to find out what Itsy wants to do w/her life and go for the gold. If your xh ever wakes up and realizes what he's done and comes to talk to you about it, that will be the time to turn your focus back on to him, i.e., it will be your decision to reconcile or not. However, for today, look to your future and know that no matter what happens, you are going to be okay.
