New Thread for 2940!!!!

[Heartbroken]

That decision is diff for each and everyone of us. I would tell myself I was done and wanted out only to change my mind hours from that moment. You will know when you are done and right now you are in the middle of this major storm and you should not make any life changing decisions - they would only be based on total emotions and my C says we need to make decisions with BOTH our emotional as well as rationale minds.

My motto through ALL of this BS has been BABY STEPS. You want to accomplish too much and you want your life back (I have said this many times too) - but you really don't want that back otherwise you'd be in the same boat. You need to get yourself into the PM - present moment. You cannot change the past and we do not know the future and we cannot control the future so all you can do is work with YOU in the PM!!! Just work on baby steps and keep yourself in the PM. This has gotten my H and myself as far as we have come and less than 6 weeks ago he was stating he no longer loves me, could not love me and wanted a D and he truly did not want me until I LET HIM GO. I got to a good place for ME and was really willing to let him go, he sensed this and started to question what the hell he was doing...

SLOW DOWN....BABY STEPS and stay in the PM!!!!!!!!!!!