He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

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update. He is moving out today.
We just came back from a planned vacation, but we decided to stay in different hotel. He took the kids and had a great time. I was by myself and it was great too (first time in how many years???). I sensed that he missed me. At the same time, I know he is also looking forward to being single again. After he moves out, I think he will either miss me and comes back, OR he will enjoy his new independence/freedom so much that he will just leave (and may not be with OW either). I feel sad about this because I really want to tell him that having his freedom and staying in the marriage is not mutually exclusive (well, except for the OW part). But I will have to let him make his choice. I want my h back, but not an unhappy one. I also do not want myself to be unhappy.
Tonight we are going to my son's school performance. After that, I am guessing we will not talk for a while. I do not want to have any communications so he can really think on his own. H originally suggested this, but now he keeps telling me to "talk to him whenever I want". His speech is so confusing to me. Why is he moving out and still wants to keep talking to me all the time??? Sometimes I feel very confused with his actions.