Both you and Lili's behavior appears both needy and fused to me in this context, and putting myself in your H/bf shoes. That feeling makes me irritable.
When someone who claims to love me is unnecessarily rude, it makes me irritable. Even more than when a stranger is rude to me, and I'm not too fond of that either.
You don't have any context to go on. Since you weren't there, you can't picture what it was like to be in H/bf's shoes. You don't know what was said, how it was said, who said what to whom. All you have to go on is the hearsay Mrs. cac and I provided in our respective sitch's, which isn't enough for you to imagine the scenario with any reliable accuracy.
