Thanks for all your responses.

RC I left the home because H insisted and we moved to put son in another school..but it was not my choice..I don know what you mean she can be a christian just blinded....i did think about now that the affair is out it should be the begininng of the end but i think also that he waited for so long to make sure she was the one....I really do know that I stood and did everything possible I did not chase or beg after the initial shock. I have spent 2 years really getting to know God and I know I have a long way to go but have grown more these last 2 years than ever before and I really feel like H is so lost, he looks a mess but he is also so prideful I know it would be a miracle....i have not asked about d much at all..but am getting worried the house is for sale and we are out of money, taxes are due and this is a big mess..i heard they will leave or blow it all for ow..and thats the track we are on