ETA: All I'm asking is that he be kind about it. I don't mind being challenged or questioned. I don't want rudeness. It's always the manner of deliver that gets to me, not the content of the message.
I'm not trying to force him to change. All I asked HERE was why can't he be kind about it.
And I would be wealthy if I had a nickel for every time I have wished for this. It is ABSOLUTELY the manner in which it's delivered. This is a point that has never been understood by H.
And really, many times when he tries to get me to stop feeling badly about myself in some way, he uses this approach and it only makes me feel worse. It comes across as, "You're smart. Now cut the cr@p. It's getting annoying." Yeah, there's a compliment in there, but I feel like I've been smacked in the face with it.
