That is the problem when the other person does what you ask. You have to then find new reasons for your anger. Eventually you will run out of reasons and have to confront yourself. This business about your W not being able to backup files the way you deem, and then providing you a reason to get upset with her because she doesn’t remember or understand the system, is just a smoke screen by you. This is a creation by you to set her up to fail, to give you an excuse to withdraw, to avoid intimacy. The new intimacy in your M means you should feel good about the changes in your wife. But you don’t feel good because the changes in you haven’t come about yet. So stop making her responsible for your shortcomings.
Cobra, wow.
This is brilliant, and explains something that's happening with me and my bf, too.
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ETA: All I'm asking is that he be kind about it. I don't mind being challenged or questioned. I don't want rudeness. It's always the manner of deliver that gets to me, not the content of the message.
I'm not trying to force him to change. All I asked HERE was why can't he be kind about it.
He even said yesterday that he could do what I was asking him to do, but he won't.
