Sorry, but the first thing I feel compelled to do is--sorry Ever...but call you on the carpet.
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she is not a Christian.
So Christian are not sinners, make no mistakes and sre perfect in all actions?
No we all make mistakes and we are all sinners. She is nt being a good Christian...no argument there. But OWs are human and they make mistakes too. Many OWs are MLCer also...they may or may not have Standing spouses just like us.
We find it so much less difficult to forgive our MLCer, but we must also come to a place where we can forgive the OW also.
Okay Grace, so your younger son knows about the OW...does he now know that you have known about her too? When he said she wa a Crhistian was he saying it defensive or protectively or with derision...saying how could she be that and think what she is doing is right?
How did you respond to his defense or derision?
Do you want a divorce? If not...stop asking your HUSBAND if he has filed...talked to an attorney, thought about it etc.
Let's make sure I get this...your husband is in the house and you moved out...with your son? Sorry, I just don't know the details and you don't need to provide, but I'll ask...Why?
This is backwards with most male MLCers...usually the wife and kids stay home and he leaves...that's all.
What I guess you need to do is treat that house as the rest of us LBSs treat the MLCers apartment...or OWs house if they cohabitate. That is not your home...and it would be nice if at reconciliation you get rid of it.
I was relieved when Sweetheart moved in with the OW...cause I knew that would speed up the death of the relationship.
I know this has been going on for a long time for you now. But Lisset has a great point about why he may have waited so long to introduce the OW.
Just pray throns betweem them... Talk to your son and make him feel safe...and get his take on it...I'm curious to know what he thought of her being a Christian.
Whetehr your husband is ther eto see it or not be unconditional in love and forgiveness. Sounds pat and as though it won't do good if he doesn't see it...do it anyway. Put your Faith that God will show him those things in you.
