wow thanks for the feedback and how quickly things change..I guess I knew her coming out was so close I mean after all this time. I called H this morning about the tax info and then I asked him if he filed for D yet,I mean he has said he is going to dumb me now for 2 years..anyway he told me he doesnt have the money...then I asked him again not to bring ow to our home and then he told me he has told younger son about her..to make a long story short hopefully....he took them out to lunch ow and son and told son they were "friends", anyway right or wrong and I just feel numb but H did bring her out so I guess he has chosen her over me...my son woke up when H and I were talking and said he knew about her but didnt want to hurt me, but he has only known about her since about 1 or 2 months...anyway nothing good out of this mess, my son told me she is a CHRISTIAN oh my gosh i wanted to puke i am so sick of hearing Christains do this too and its all ok God wants us to be happy....oh well I feel like such a failure...my son did tell me she had blonde hair and when i met her she had brown hair, mine is blonde so i just thought hummm they say the H will stat trying to make them like the wife...I cant believe after 2 years and all this detaching and praying i feel this bad this hurts so much..my son told me not to judge and that he admired all i had been through and respected me for my stand all this time he said he could not have done it..I feel like I should just file for seperation now we have lost almost everything financially now...my h and all his lies and i just went along...i am just rambling but basically wanted to say the ow is out now, looks like she won
