This is absolutely totally a script that has happened between me and bf a zillion times.
I start out feeling okay, forget I'm afraid of his reaction, hit a snag, ask him for help in all innocence but use a technical word in an incorrect way, he doesn't understand what I said (or pretends not to understand in order to punish me for a) having a problem, b) using the word wrong, c) who knows?), and off we go.
First of all, it would make me NUTS to have the password to ANYONE'S work network if I were not employed there. Holy cr@p!
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It's nice that he trusts me to give me this access
Well, it's sort of nice, but it's also unintentionally setting you up for a major snafu if something goes wrong. THAT'S not nice, especially when you don't want to do it this way.
Get one of these babies and start backing up at home: 320 gig. My friend got one at Sam's for $126.
But if he's like my bf, he will say THAT'S not the problem and you'll be off again.
You quoted cac as saying
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He says no he can't; he can't think of anything that makes him feel inadequate.
Hmmm... again, if he's like my bf, the fact is that EVERYTHING makes him feel inadequate; that's why he's on a hair trigger of defensiveness. And for me (or you) to roll over, act humble, and bare (y)our throat(s) makes him feel like even more of a bully, so to compensate, he has to come on even stronger.
I nodded all through your description of your responses and his responses. We go through this all the time. The first time we went to C (the first of the three C's we've been to. I personally have been to SEVEN C's since I met him. (One of them died.)), I wanted to have someone referee these asinine convos like the very one you described. Well, we had one of those exchanges YESTERDAY... so...?
Go to Sam's, get the My Book, and start using it. All you do is plug it in and drag your My Documents folder to it. Don't bother with a "backup routine" or anything. The trouble with those is that it's like packing up all your household goods into millions of boxes. The only way to find anything is to "restore," i.e., to unpack everything and set up all the furniture. When you drag your whole My Documents folder to an external storage medium, it's like moving your whole house, lock, stock, and barrel. If you have a problem, you just enter the backed up place and everything is right there where you can find it.
I wonder if he's on edge about something else? This seems like a tempest in a teacup.
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Zip drives are ANCIENT technology, and you don't need a computer course or a professional. Portable media are so HUGE now and so cheap that you just plug them in and drag folders. Even simpler than burning a cd. No extra program is needed as with burning a cd.
