When my H puts his mind to it...he does it. Quote from him "when I am done I am done" funny thing is he never told me we were having problems to begin with...even when he left he would call and e very friendly...it has gotten so much worse as time goes on. I still can't believe he is making such ludicrious requests...he is not thinking about his children at all. I hope I will feel better when I talk to my L. I have a C appt but not until next Friday....she is wonderful and always knocks sense into me!!! I slept fairly well last night, still not used to sleeping alone. Somedays I think he is going to just show up after work... so much on my plate but I am staying strong for my kids!