HI I have been reading posts on and off for 2 years and have only posted a few times..maybe a year ago....Anyway long story but H had OW since I got the speech ILBNILWY. The bomb came out of no where for me and I checked the cell phone and found it led right to OW....anyway I have not exposed his affair and he has kept her hidden form the kids..we have 2, one is in trouble mentally because of a drug overdose and is currently in jail. This was an anwesome kid growing up, went down the wrong path, this and H father death brought on the MLC...also have a younger son 14, who H takes on the weekends mostly and we have him in a new christian school because of problems with older son and also H wanting to move to this area because of OW, for me to stay with son during the school week I moved about 1 hour, which also puts us closer to OW home town and H is staying at H while it sells...which it has not yet. the OW still hidden. H never visits older son with the who currently has many mental issuses and just thinks his Dad cant see him where he is. With our younger son H stays close and basically acts like I dont exist. Younger son knows we are getting D, and at this point just wants it all to be over with. H has not filed yet, Ive been expecting it since the beginning to be anytime,H has OW at our home when son isnt with him, this is so hard and my question is what good am i doing supporting Ow being hidden? I feel like saying the OW has won and why hide all this, let older son know this is why his father never sees him, he has OW and younger son to know the truth, so we can all get on with our lives? Please let me know your thoughts. I am just tired and dont know many cases where the OW is hidden for this long from he kids? thanks so much
