Well your stronger then me...I probably would have blurted out that my H was feeling the same as her....good you didn't do that but on the other hand it might help her to know the otherside just like it helps you...
I have to be careful about movies...I cry like a baby in the best of times so for me I try and avoid the emotional things these days for my own good.
As for you...remember when I asked if you are in love with H...or the "idea" of H...sort of like asking "do you know what you are fighting for"....of course you can be in love with both things...I was...and actually I think that helped me to hang on because there were times that I didn't feel like I loved H as much as the "idea" of him...and other times I loved him more then the "idea" of him...it sort of kept me in touch on one level or another...
I have a strong religious faith...and truly believe that since God created marriage he knows what is best for us in reguards to safeguarding it....and treating it with respect and dignity...things I didn't always do but am now acutely aware of...
Sounds like you have a lot of thinking to do...but I wouldn't over think this stuff either...emotions can carry us away...it is good that you found this friend to learn something from...and that you are feeling more "fun" yourself...
Before I knew I had any problems in my marriage I was in a coffee shop when I heard a woman talking about kittens...my D's wanted to get one or two and H said they had to be pure breds...no more mutt cats (rolls my eyes)...this lady was talking and I was listening...finally I interupted and asked if I could bring my daughters to see them because she was obviously a breeder and sounded like a very caring one...
We made arrangements to do so...my D's did buy two kittens from her but we had to wait until they were older to get them...she didn't seperate them from the mom until they were 16 weeks old...I would take the kids to visit...she was very impressed by our dedication to the cats...my son who was 5 at the time impressed her to and she hired him to come over and play with the kittens to socialize them for family living...get them used to being around small kids...
Over the years we have kept in touch...we have a very deep friendship and she would do anything for me....it is funny how we meet special people in our lives...some we keep...some we don't....even though I don't talk to her much I do think of her and we do connect several times a year....who knows, this friendship you have budding here may be like that too....
Well...It is like 2:30 ish...I am so excited I can hardly sleep...I did sleep from 9pm-1:30am and will go back for a quick snooze, then shower and get everyone going...I am so excited I am going to Hawaii!!!!
