You have good advice to follow. It all sucks and it will for a while. I remember the shock of being served and even now, 7 months later, looking at the suit still hurts. By, the way, I am not D yet. We don't have kids and it is still 7 months in. We have a date ( the 5th one, I hope it sticks) and H just presented me with his offer. Equally as ridiculous as yours. They go for the moon.
I recommend a mediator if you can. My sis couldn't believe my BIL when he offered to take over the house payments and get the equity but she could rent it from him.... nevermind the 2 kids she has full custody of. When the mediator read the offer, she asked my sis to leave the room and my sis listening at the door heard, " Now Mr. L. if you don't remove your head from your ass and put forth a reasonable offer, I can't see anything happening here."
You will be ok. Because of the kids you have more time than you think. The only time these cases go quickly is if you have already reached a settlement before the ct date.
He is loopy. He will be for sometime and he may call you screaming and crying. Hang up. Detaching is the hardest and I am finally really starting to after 18 months. Keep talking to your lawyer but don't be surprised if your H drags this out.
It takes a lot out of you and focusing is hard. Be very careful driving.... distraction is huge. Every time you start to think a negative thought, replace it with a good one. In a while it really works and it helps.
Goodluck
Hey Snodderly.....I post over in Surviving the Big D. New name due to a nosy OW. H is still deep in the tunnel. I am letting go though. 32 days and it should be done.
