Huband just moved in with OW

[Danu]

Hi TabD & anyone else following my story! Hope you all are doing well.

H never returned my call, so I had to call him. He did come over and we discussed the bills. He's really out of it. He spent all the money he had from last payday, and had to use the money he got this last payday to pay his 1/2 of the rent and his car payment, so I got no money to pay bills other than 1/2 of his paycheck which gets direct deposited into our joint account. This means he "blew" $900 from the paycheck before last. I just don't want to know what he bought, so didn't ask. Anyway, he stayed about an hour and a half, and acted like he wanted to stay longer, but I had to get to my counceling app. I told him he could stay, and reminded him that this is "Your home" and you can be here anytime. He just said the typical "I know". At one point I told him "I love you, and I want you to come home" gave him a hug, he hugged me back, and I was the first to let go. Then, I took his face in my hands and repeated it. Of course, his answer was........"I know".

All in all it was a good meeting, and the bills will just get paid a couple of days late. I'm not going to sweat this small stuff. I've freaked out about a lot less than this, and I just can't do it anymore!

Danu