As hard as this is is for you listen to what ROOT said and also take a really deep breath.. my blood is boiling just reading about what happened to you... she is scandalous! My H's OW used to send him pics of her and her Tattoo ( in a very inappropriate place of his NAME!!!!!!!
I feel your pain sweetie. I really do. I am sooo sorry you are going thru this.
When it seems they can stoop no lower they amaze and astound ....they find a way to be uglier and nastier. She is trying so hard to hurt you b/c she is threatened by you. And he doe snot have b*lls enough to tell to her to stop and for him to stop too.I cannnot type fast enough I am so angry at his behavior and hers most of all.. she is a woman too and apparently she has no backbone! My h's OW did not either.. she is as nasty as they come too. ... believe it or not ( stuff for Ripleys really) one of my close friends knows a guy who knew the OW in her hometown he lives there too... Well to make a long story short he had nothing nice to say about her... And one nite long after reconciling, I knew about this long before he ended it with her , I got brave ( I think I had had a few drinks) and told him this and he said " I ALREADY KNEW THAT ABOUT HER ." AND I DISGUSTINGLY ASKED "THEN WHY WERE YOU WITH HER?" AND HE HAD NO ANSWER... IT MAKES NO SENSE... But you do have to play the game so to speak like ROOT says and beat her at her own game....
I know it is hard and you want to strangle her and slap the F&ck out of him but take a step back and get to work ! She has nothing on you or she wouldn't have to play games like that.
My H even asked me one time after being Reconciled shortly and I had deleted a pic she sent while he was sleeping,, I assumed he did not want to see it he asked " WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT..?"
I almost passed out.. What gives me the right?????????????????
I have been your wife for 10 years ............ *)(&&*(*&^&^%%$. All the things I thought to say which would need to censored for sure.. I took a deep breath and let him live in his F*(&ed UP Fantasy world that what he said and that he had her pic did not hurt me and cried when he left to work that day..
When he came home he never saw me sad. I am not saying this will work for you maybe something else will work. But on our anniversary @ 2 months after Reconciling~ I finally asked him to delete her number and her pic and he acted as if he had not known they were still there and he deleted it....It felt like it was there for years.... it is their guilt that makes them hold on ( I think).. after all they ( OW) are only a bandaid to cover up what they realy wanted from you!
It is slow and like pulling teeth but it can be done if he is really ready to let go and you are shining and do not let their F*()ed UP Sh&T get to you.
