My w. has absolutely no job prospects. She is still working for me and would like to continue (huh?). She will never be able to afford the house and it is a big issue with me that he/she who pays for the house gets it! Kids can stay! Look I am not trying to be mean, I just want to protect myself. I pay all the bills, should I not get the assets that go with it? For her the only thing that has changed is that I do not live with her. For me I have lost my w., family (sorry folks a part time dad is just not the same as a full time dad) and my house. I want this over! I want to buy a nice place to provide for my kids and start over. I could give a damn what happens to her. If she wants to try any sort of reconciliation fine. I will continue with "whatever" counseling with the small hope that maybe we can work things out. However, she needs to understand that she has more to lose than I do. Her move.
One thing I find strange is that she tells our mutual friend every damn thing I do. Mean or nice. What the hell for? She says it is over, why run to and tell someone what I am up for. Is she seeking validation for her stupidity. Probably. But the latest about me crying at the ballet was strange. What fool would not think those were real tears!
Our friend did do something I thought was interesting. She told w. that she was mean and too defensive and that trait probably drove me to the state of mind that made w. mad. W. started defending herself and friend said, see I told you so. That is what I have been screaming about for years! W. has a problem that has driven me nuts. She just cannot admit that she is to blame sometimes. Everything is someone fault. Maybe this so called divorce counseling may shed some light on that who knows.
