Now Surviving Separation

[Heartbroken]

I think you found the answer - but just to clarify. H told me of the OW 1/6/07 and said he would tell her goodbye and work on us. Well that goodbye lasted 2 wks or less (not really sure) and they were back to communicating. I did not for sure know they were back in contact until 2/19/07 and told him he had to go then. It took him 4 days to hook up with an apt. sad thing is it only took him 12 days out on his own to see he was making a mistake. He missed me, the kids, our home. But you see - he saw how much I had changed since Aug '06 - while he was still at home - and I made the changes w/o even knowing about the Ow so my changes were perhaps more valid because I did them for me and for us and for our family versus because of an OW threat. I can see how making changes and convincing our H they are real would be harder if we knew about the OW. You may have a harder time with your changes (from your H's perspective)...but hang in there!