Life goes on, and it ain't about Job

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Thanks guys.
I have noticed a cycle to my current life. OM is out of towner, most contact w/ my wife is work trips (1 per month), and its rare visit here. The time bewteen this contact is much better for me. Wife and I are in contact, have moments of fun and understanding, even start to reconnect in small ways, then as contact w/ POS draws near, she pulls away, decreases contact w/ the kids and I, and then she is gone for 4 days or so. Not interpreting or expecting, just observing.

Ended up not doing anything with the bank account. I spoke to her and told her that I could not afford two households, and really wanted to know what she thought we should do about the joint account. She led off with a strange statement about her not knowing what was taking so long for her atty to file. I asked what happened to mediation? She said she didn't think I was interested, I replied that she is free to do whatever she needed to do but my point about mediation was that I would go but I wasn't going to help her get a divorce. I then refocused on the bank account, she agreed that I couldnt afford it, and said once she got a full paycheck, she would be able to help more. Since that discuussion, she has not written a check or made a withdrawl, of course she hasn't made a deposit either. So for now I will just wait and see. I think it is confusing her to have me not do what she and I am sure OM has told her I would do.