Valentines day massacre

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OL,
I think Friday's and the weekend are tough, partly because not many post on those days. I hope you do alright this weekend. I hope anyone out there reading drops in a posts here and gives some support and advice.

You're in a tough spot. Although I envy you that you sometimes sleep and touch your W, I don't know if I could stand it.

Have you read DR (Divorce Recovery)? I think it's a little better than DB. In DR, it has a spot where it tells you when to use LRT, and I think you fit the criteria. I don't understand MLC (who does?), but I do think the basics of DB and LRT are always good advise
1. Don't talk R talk, unless she initiates it
2. don't let her see you upset if at all possible
3. don't initiate any conversation, except for issues you have to like kids, finances, etc. If she says how was your day, respond nicely. Don't ask her how her day was. Get it?
4. Listen, don't argue with anything. Just say something like you can understand how she might feel that way, then drop it.

Reread my other posts with advise too. You need to do this. You need to GAL and detach some.

I didn't believe it when I was given this advice, but things got better when I followed it.

I probably won't get back on line until Monday. Hang in there. You are surviving and you will.

take care.