Muddle, here is the book title I promised: "The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond" by Patricia Evans. Presently I'm almost finished reading "Emotional Unavailability" which I believe you recommended. I liked the co-dependent chapter, it describes my W's present A to a tee! Sad thing is, she says that they both REALIZE that they are co-dependent. It's one thing to carry on in a R when you don't realize it is unhealthy but when you know it is but do it anyway and risk destroying your family...Wow! Anyway, just thought I'd give you the book name tonight. Take care.
