I appreciate your optimism, too, fearless, and I think there is reason for optimism. The point that I made in my email was that mrs. hd's response was nowhere near the apocalypse that hd feared and has been fearing. They are still in conversation AND hd still has to keep the pressure on.
But in truth, no one knows what goes on behind closed doors... even with your friends.
The advice we offer to friends in person is ALWAYS based on limited information (thank goodness!) and that goes quadruple times a gazillion on this board.
