I was at the mall with my daughters today and got a call on my cell. It was a sheriff telling me he had my "ticket to freedom"

He was at my house and I wan't there so he told me he would come to the mall...
I was served in front of my daughters and I am totally humiliated.
Called H and basically told him he is a piece of sh&t!! In my state the plantiff is notified before the defendant gets served...H had promised me he would tell me when papers were coming.
Worse yet...the preliminary agreement that H wants is...
the house
my van
me to pay his court/attorney fees
keep him on health ins.
can't sell anything or damage anything in the house...does he really think I would do that!!!WTF
My L is on vacation until Tues....I am sick over this...I guess I didn't feel like it would ever come to this....it has only been 3 months since we seperated!
HELP