Is this really a guy who wants his marriage to end tomorrow if sex does not begin tonight?

Be fair. Neither Hairdog nor anyone else has said anything remotely resembling that. What he wants is for his wife to acknowledge that sex in their marriage is an issue and to agree to take definite action to work with him on that issue. "I might feel like it in the total absence of pressure" does not count.

The issue is less about sex and more about one spouse utterly neglecting a legitimate want/need/desire of the other.

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