"I need to be sure that I am not going to be hurt again. I am seeing if you can stay away from other women in the lack of sex from me. I am seeing if you keep with your program [SLAA] and keep going to church. I am waiting until I believe that the changes you've made are for real."

I haven't followed your sitch....what does this mean?? Did you have an affair?? What is SLAA??