Busy at work...but I think you have a list for MLC and another list for MLC. It seems to me you are under the misguided assumption that your second list more so than being WAS are reasons for not MLC.

Many seem and feel rational--even appear it
Many hit the lawyer ASAP
Many move out ASAP
Many do not abandon there children


And as for the opinion of a therapist who has been hearing her side of things...common and irrelevant.

I'm not saying it is or isn't MLC...just that your against arguments don't hold water.

HUGS,
RCR