Here's something else. I did'nt hear anything about promising to have sex in the wedding vows. Sure it's just assumed but ????. What if our spouses physically could not have sex. Would that be OK, or would we give up on them? What if it were us who lost the desire. Loved our S's but just did'nt have the emotional lust connection thing? We wanted our M's but just did'nt want sex? How would it feel to have our S's reminding us of it every day like we do them? I think it would be pretty depressing and eventually I'd want a D rather than be reminded constantly of it.
I'm not a martyr and neither are you. That's just stupid talk. We're good people that just ended up in a difficult spot right now and the major struggle is in our heads. One thing is absolutely sure, we'll not always be stuck here. I for one am going to take my time, see things through on nature or God's time frame. I disagree with the "I want it and I want it NOW or else", or the "I DESERVE it" attitudes. That's as selfish as it gets, YUK! Nope, my W deserves better than that.
Either way, there's life to be lived and it's time to get to it.
God Bless,
COG
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