You have been doing this a little longer than me from your register date. You can probably quote the MLC resources as well as I can, OR you have forgotten on purpose (like me) alot of it as well.--Yup, selective memory.
The stages are just guideline remember? And in no real set order. Anger is one of them, and according to the resources it is an outward manisfestation of the anger they feel for themselves for their Confusion. (blah blah blah, trite answers for a difficult situation doesn't make it any less true or painful[-- Very true. I guess that I have tried to forget that all of this is happening to me. [/color]What is the next stage? Is it going to rain tomorrow or in a week? Find out when it happens as there is no set pattern.--I know, I know I just wish that I could figure this out.
His mother's interference concerns me.--You,me, his reasonable sisters and brothers, our priest, my kids family counselor, my mother ... yeah. We all see her as an enabler but she knows no other way to be ... That is just it, doing his laundry, not making him pay rent or utilities, letting him come and go as he chooses with no respect for her. In his distorted point of view, he is not being disrespectful because he is not skanking around in her house but it is still the same thing.You see what she is saying to you.--Tell me,maybe I am missing something.
What I wonder is what is she saying to him? I wonder just how much her taking care of her son really bothers her? Some mothers will complain all the live long day about their thankless tasks but feel unfullfilled unless doing them.--DANG , JACK !! you are 100 percent on point. Without him there, she has nothing and no one. All of the others have pulled away and stay away no less. He just can't see it or can't figure out how to get out of it. Maybe he feels trapped, he wants to leave there but not come back to me. So, when are you going to open your practice?
I AM the first one to say that these are unanswerable questions.
Now imagine him living there with this mother, I see her nagging him all the time, hell I wouldn't want to be in that house either. [color:#330033]--I am sure that she nags about things that she needs done for herself like her shopping. He does seem to be short with her and yells at her sometimes where not too long ago he would never have done that.
Can you get through this Ever? -- I am doing my darndest but I admit that I am getting emotionally worn down.
