Mrs cac: Regarding talking, I used to get really upset with H when he would look at the TV while I talked to him. I always felt that he didn't really care what I had to say and that he was chosing the TV over me.
Lou: I can imagine you feeling that way.
Just wanted to respond to this here... the Dawna Markova book about learning styles addresses this. Some people listen and absorb better when they are NOT looking directly at you. Odd but true. My late H was like that. When he was listening, he would look off into outer space... it used to make me crazy. I'm the kind of person who looks right into your eyes while you're talking and nods, makes little acknowledging noises, etc. What people call "a good listener"-- at least it looks that way. He was a good listener, too, but it didn't look that way at all. (Don't know if cac was a good listener or not... just wanted to throw in that counter-intuitive observation.)
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If I carry out the dance situation, BB will put on her abused/neglected wife uniform
So?
Learn from hairdog. BB's response might surprise you.
He was a good listener, too, but it didn't look that way at all. (Don't know if cac was a good listener or not... just wanted to throw in that counter-intuitive observation.)