Okay I have two questions this morning. 1st- What is the "average" amount of time that has to go by before he will start to contact me. I can do it for a few months, but truthfully I don't think I can go all summer without "checking" in with him. I am really trying here, it is just hard.
Ok, sorry to say, I have not had my H go away. Well ok, my H left last summer for 1 week. He was suffering with Depression at the time. We have gotten that taken care of... well we sought out a new Dr and he doesn't think it was "actually" depression, my H's testonerone levels were lower than the normal so we started him on some hormones and WHAT a world of difference that makes. So when we were talking with our Dr he said that you can not "really" work on you M if you are not at home ... I didn't say anything at that point... H asked if he could come home... H has been home since. sorry if I wasn't any help on this one.
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2nd- Do you all think that my XH will be able to make any progress if he is still having his best friend's mom make dinner for him every night, stays at her house for 2-3 hours every night and spends most weekends over at her house for 5 or more hours? I just wonder sometimes if maybe this is going to take longer than I am prepared for b/c he has this support in her. That he never is really alone, b/c when he is lonely he can call her and hang out with her. He is getting all of his needs met (except for the sex) from her. My XH always liked his freedom and space. He wanted to be able to come and go and do as he pleased and not have anyone put any expectations on him. And this "set up" is exactly what he loves. He has no responsibilities to others, sets his own schedule and when he wants his own space he leaves her house and goes to his apartment where there is no one there to bother him.
I am tending to agree with you on this one, but who is ever sure. If he has someone to turn too, then why would he have to work on anything. Maybe she will get tired of it. who knows.
wife of an addict M 39 H 39 D18 D 16 Together 19 M17
