Good point by SingleAgain, don't analyze everything and keep doing what you're doing (and stay upbeat and positive). Don't worry about motives he may not even know what he's trying to do. My guess here is he is one very confused guy. Keep the space and detach for your sanity. You'll be amazed at how good you will begin to feel about yourself with GALing and PMA.
If he calls again about doing something for the girls suggest an alternative thing he can do... like bringing lunch on another day or taking daughter to someplace. The more you keep him involved with the kids, the healthier they will be. Even though it's hard not to want their personal support, and feel just a wee bit good about their outrage over his crummy behavior (you certainly don't want them thinking what he's done is right or excusable), but somehow you want them to have a connection to him even if they don't approve of his current behavior. It's a tough place to be. I'm wondering if some of the distancing from the girls is because you're husband feels a lot of shame about what he has done. Sometimes it's really difficult for people to think they can come back once they've gone so far. The shame can be so strong that even reassurance isn't enough. Again, time and space for healing is the best thing if this were the case. (But not space from the kids! Interaction with them would be good. Especially for the girls... it may also be the first step towards getting courage to come back. But don't count on that! At this point you have to detach and have no expectations of him returning).
Yes, it does sound like there's a strong possiblity of MLC and depression based on what you've shared on this site. Also, pretty typical for his age.
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