R2, I just reread thru this whole tread. You do have lots of questions and I don't know if I can answer them all... Reason being my H is still her and I don't know what it is like to have them gone and dating.
As for stages of MLC, my DB coach, laurie, and other's here say to not really follow or look at where they are in stages, b/c everyone hits the stages at different times and some mayb stay in 1 stage longer than another and may not really go thru 1 of the stages. I sure do hope I am making sense on this... It is all so new to me as well.
Yes i have been dealing with H and this crap for over 2 years but that doesn't mean I am a pro by any means. I am only letting you know what I feel and what I do know. or think I know
Now that I am typing I don't remember all of the questions... let me go back and try to answer a few more if I can.
wife of an addict M 39 H 39 D18 D 16 Together 19 M17
