Santhony, Personally this Jack is disturbed by your choice of names for your STBXW's OM.
I also appreciate your words of caution about people's decision to fight for their marriage. We all have our limits, and we all think we know what they are, but until those are tried and tested we really do not know.
I am saddened, but at the same time happy for you.
Jack, but not your Jack.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK