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Aud31 #985701 03/23/07 01:35 PM
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I think he needs to sense interested, calm and trusting vibes from me.


You are absolutly right....All of those make a man feel safe. Now you just have to figure out what is the best way to approach this...


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Aud,
Just slipped in and understand those "trust innuendo's" creeping their many limbs at you. I think 1210 (as usual) was right on about not discussing your concerns at this moment because most likely he is feeling the same things about himself. Really nothing you could do about it anyway, it is in his hands whether capable or not.
Keep your positive thoughts in his direction and only positive reactions can come!
Really , with all you have done lately, who in their right mind would want to jeapordize (sp?) any of what YOU created? You have quite a comfortable NEST at home that I think he realizes and doesnt want to lose it...just BELIEVE...
I hope the weekend goes rapid for you and he is back soon to soothe your concerns...peace

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I think I can! I think I can! I think I can!

I'm actually feeling pretty good this morning--hanging with my super cute kids and letting the fear roll off my back.

Now, to find a sitter for this evening. I think I might take myself to the movies. Something funny.`

Still working on coming up with brilliant ways to boost H's ego and provide a safe welcoming place for him to return to. I haven't come up with anything beyond having a pleasant upbeat conversation with him this morning...about his morning and the kids and the vintage three-wheeler in the back of a pickup on his drive to pick up some equipment.

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You are on a roll keep it up....

Glad to see that you are going to do something for you tonight....


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I'm still rolling along. Kept up my PMA all day yesterday, and then got away for a few hours last night.

H called twice...I really do appreciate his efforts.

I'm still working on reading Mars/Venus, and can see that so much of our breakdown has just been our different styles/lack of communication. I am hoping to work on that when he returns from his trip--to get things opening up and work towards a truly happy, healthy R. I hope H wants that too.


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Great book by the way Aud...


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