Maybe that is what your first therapist is trying to get you to do that you are seeing as "no hope" for you and H....there is NONE until you get yourself on solid ground...remember most of suggested that you not look so much for a marriage counselor or couples counselor but one who could help YOU with your issues...
Gotta run to work...will check in later...
I think the DB coach is enough for your M/R....you need a personal counselor just for YOUR issues...think about that...
