Gee...welcome back to the thread that refuses to lock. Yea, KU. Burg, you're just feeling inferior and need to lash out against KU to soothe yourself. You have an attachment to hating KU. Don't you know that our attachments cause us suffering? Release your attachment.
I have a lot to report, and, unfortunately, I'm at home today with my spring-breakers, so I don't know if I'll get time to fill in all the details. Micro summary: we talked, we talked louder, she threatened divorce, I did a 180 and said, "fine. Let me know who you are going to choose as your attorney so that I don't waste my time waiting for them to call me back." She got quiet, and then came back with all these things she was going to do today, e.g. cancel joint credit cards, etc. "Fine." And I made one observation: "Interesting how, over all these years, when you threaten divorce, I plead for you not to go there. When I finally agree, you have all the plans to D ready to go. Who's been working to keep the marriage together?" Then, followed a dissection of the emails. She says that I took the whole "gritted teeth" thing wrong, that she wasn't commenting about doing this in response to sex in general, just scheduled sex. I asked, again, just WTF, if anything, she WAS willing to do. She said it was in her email...that part about that she "might try things to make myself 'willing' more often than if I would if left to my own devices..." Huh? I told her that this was vague, and, really, just an illusory sort of offer... Example..."I might pick you up at 5pm, if you don't have another ride"... this promises nothing. Even if you didn't have another ride, I still haven't committed to pick you up. I needed to hear that she WILL try things to make herself more willing.
She said she would.
And then I said, great, but we need to get more specific.
Unfortunately, DD5 woke up (can't imagine what woke her) and then W had to leave for work, so that's where the convo ended.
Okay...not such a micro summary, but that's basically what was discussed. I think my 180 was key, but that I have to keep the pressure up.
I'm glad to see that the game's afoot. Keep the ball in play. Lots to do and you are only seconds into the first play.
Hang on, it gets more interesting from here on.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
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