Let him control this. Let him know. He will resent you for taking the matter out of his hands. Zero expectations. This will surprise him. Tell him about the party. Date time place. Do not ask for confirmation that he is/is not coming. E mail him. Then do not expect him to show up. If he does, make him as welcome as an elderly uncle. Then go have a good time, without hoovering.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
