Well Tam...you have success stories from me and 1210...that is more then I got when I first came here...I didn't have anyone to really give me hope...when I hit the 6 month mark I just wanted to know if it was at all possible to reconcile a marriage after that long....
My heart does break for what your going through...and I won't lay the blame 100% on you...he made poor choices as well...however, the matter of reconiliation could be 100% within your grasp...IF YOU LISTEN....1210 and I have both been down this ugly road...we have suffered the pain...yes we made mistakes but learned from them...quickly!....we made patience a priority...we focused on what we needed to do and didn't focus on rushing to get H back....I have seen what happens when "they" come home too soon...too soon for them and too soon for the "us"...it isn't pretty and the pain and betrayal feels 10X's worse....
We don't want that for you....I wish you could feel the anguish that I am feeling for you...wishing in a way that I could carry that burden for you...but I can't...ONLY YOU CAN FIX THIS!
Please think about what we are sharing with you...we know it is hard...we did it, remember?...we know it hurts, we felt it, remember?....now we want you to feel success....and success is totally in your hands...with or without H in your life....you can have success!!!
Calm yourself...focus...set short term goals...that will lead to long term goals...you CAN DO THIS!
