I agree with what you're saying and I should rephrase because that isn't exactly what I meant by silence. What I mean is that I think she wants to avoid any talk of intimate and vulnerable matters. That's why she cut off joint counseling. That's why she created this rationale of fighting against male subjugation. So she moves to a position of power and dominance, then suppresses any criticism, keeps things quiet.
You're right about her thriving on the enmeshment and the adrenaline rush, though. I agree with what your saying about attention too.
