Do you know what somber means? Sober in mood is my favorite definition.
I think that you should continue to contain the grabby/needy behavior and add a new twist to your mood - somber.
You continue to be kind, considerate, a good mother, all the normal stuff, but let your interactions with him take on a quiet, serious tone.
When he finally asks you about the change, have a ready answer for him. Don't accuse, but tell him how you feel that you are being dismissed in the relationship. Talk to him about the things you do to try and meet his needs, then ask him how you are doing at meeting his needs. Ask him to be specific.
Then it's time for you to outright ask him if he has any intentions of starting to meet your needs, and what his actions would consist of. If he is willing to discuss this with you, then help him with a practical plan to meet your needs. "Be more affectionate" won't work. "Hug me and kiss me every morning before work, and cuddle with me for a little while on the couch every evening. Initiate sex with me at least x number of times per week". The idea with a man is to be specific. This is very important.
Also, if he puts you off on the discussion, ask him for a day and time that he will be willing to sit down and discuss some issues with you.
Let me know what you think.
All the best, -NOPkins-
Last edited by NOPkins; 03/22/0707:20 PM.
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
