I think that if you ever drive up and find your stuff in the lawn, you move it right back in. Call the cops if you have to. Its your house too.
Actually, that would be a good sign IMO. It would mean she is feed up and reaching her limit, so the best tactic might be to keep up the pressure until she decides to talk openly and honestly about the real issues, which is your ultimate objective.
Shift your thinking, I still worry that you would even think of backing away instead of moving forward.
