uhmmm....that he's serious about changing the status quo and he's not going to take her crap anymore? Granted it should be a last resort but come on, HD is at the end of his rope. And MrsHD is NOT going to "get it" until something drastic happens.
I think HD has a fine line to walk. I believe that underneath all her bluff, MrsHD is really scared and has had severe abandonment type issues. If HD moves out, I think it could trigger those feelings and put her into super defense mode.
I think he needs to stand his ground with her to set his boundaries, create respect, pull back his lost power, and even the playing field to get to a position that he can go toe to toe with her if necessary. But the reason for that battle is not to threaten and scare her, but to cause her to confront her own insecurities. HD then steps to step on the other side of that fine line and offer her the security she really wants. She needs to respect that he is fighting for her.
I do not see how leaving the house will send the same message. I think it will convince her he is a selfish male who does not care about her feelings at all, while at the same time giving her a sense of satisfaction that she has defeated and run off this man.
There are lots of ways to get the message across that MrsHD needs to “get it,” but abandoning her is not the right approach, IMO.
