I wimped out. Well sort of anyway. I had taken my post, cleaned it up and added a line at the bottom saying: " I'm giving you this note today, not as an indictment, but as an invitation to join with me in the hard work to make our marriage what it should be." I never got as far as printing it out, as she seemed to be in a pretty good mood and I didn't want to spoil that.
So now for the well sort of part. Over dinner it goes like this: Mrs: So what owuld you like to see us get accomplished this year? me: in terms of what? Mrs: Anything, it could be the house, kids, money, us.... me, taking the opening: I'd like to make our marriage a lot better than it is now. I'm not really happy about it the way it is,and I sense that you aren't too happy either....
and it went from there. I pretty much brought up everything from my note. As far as I can tell so far, all it did was bum her out. She did say that my response to her initial question wasn't what she expected but that she also wasn't really surprised. Anyway, I think there is plenty to work from and lots of hope. Still not any firm direction to take toward improving things though. I think I may suggest we go to another WWME weekend.
