Hey, don't pile on Choc. IIRC, there are a lot of similarities between Choc's sitch and mine. Maybe no NPD thrown into the mix, but still pretty similar in a lot of ways.
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OK -- I vote for her. I'm weary of always being the one. Furthermore, I submit to you that there' a reason why she doesn't: because she knows that the roads will lead to her issues, and she's terrified and riddled with guilt about it.
This really struck me and rang true. It perfectly describes my W. Those of you who have been here long enough will remember W's reactions at the C. Once most of my issues had been dealt with and some of the focus swung toward her, she quit going. She wouldn't talk to either C. All I could get out of her was, "There's nothing more he/she can do for me."
If your S is unwilling to address their own issues, for whatever reason, no action or amount of action on your part is going to change the situation. I realize that mine is a special case since NPD is involved, but I've pretty much come to accept the R as it is.
