I had, for months on these boards, thought my H was the WAH.
Then, things got weirder, the ride got WILDER.
I found this forum and cried, I was stunned, this was IT. MLC was what was happening to my H.
What is the hallmark (in my case): * crazy spending * many OW - none of whom are anywhere NEAR suitable - obvious affair down and using women * anger * lies, lies and more lies - not just about the A to cover it up, but about your past (rewriting history), about you. Also, lying to EVERYONE, not just you out of fear to your response or the A. My H has lied to his family, mine, his friends, everyone. * My H is, I think the only MLCer on the board who has had this very disturbing thing - he claims to hear voices, see things/images. Yep, can't explain t his one and it's pretty dang scary. Part of intense depression b/c he never had signs of schizophrenia or bipolar before (early onset diseases). * Totally unusual behavior...think of the things they loved/cherished/valued most in life and they will totally discard those things and do opposite. My H valued financial security and he has nothing now, spent it all wrecklessly. His professional reputation came above everything, now it is in shambles. He hated staying up late, now he takes calls at 3am routinely. never took time out of work for personal things, now he is texting and calling his "friends" all day. * Admission to intense depression, running from pain, all that good stuff that MLCers say and feel.
